This post is part of a series I like to call “A Visit From Mom.” These posts are written by, well…my mom. I think she kind of rocks! My mom and her mother were the primary inspirations for me to starting writing way back as a little girl. Now, I share my blog with my mom cause I think she has some things to say that you might really love.
I worry. It’s what I do. I possess the complete skill set to worry well and I regularly encounter a myriad of reasons to do so.
The past few weeks have brought a number of changes to my world—most of them related to the people with whom I work. Just when I felt secure in the family environment we had created together, my coworkers start dropping off, one by one, embarking on their new individual life journeys. New government regulations create the need for drastic changes in policy and procedure. New medical requirements for my husband and me demand lifestyle changes once more. New family members create a new dynamic and a development of new relationships.
If there is one thing that stirs me into worry mode, it’s change. I know that all the self-help books speak repeatedly of climbing out of the comfort zone. I know that growth is not possible if you are comfortable with your status quo. I understand that with the emphasis on competition that permeates our world, there is no chance to sit back in the rocking chair and behold the fruits of your labor. It is forever onward and upward, with the desired outcome of constant competition and permanent growing pains. Part of this drive is human nature and part of it is societal. Whatever the case, I want to wake up and smell the roses.
I just returned from a long awaited vacation, rested and refreshed and tanned from long rides in the sunlight. I had not had a headache in a whole week and felt totally equipped to handle whatever might come my way. Within hours, my headache was back and my worry program had been reset. After giving this some thought this evening, I feel at peace. Lao Tzu said it like this: “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don’t resist them—that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”
I am going to travel on that road. As others branch off into a new path, I shall strive to remember that I, too, still share the joy of their new adventure. As we introduce new members to our little family, we create a new adventure for those folks, also. What better thing can there be in this world than to be an active part of such a Grand Design?
Thank you, Heavenly Father, for creating a world with paths for all of us.
As I prepared this AVFM post for mom, a dear friend of mine- Sr. Macrina Wiederkehr – posted the following quote on her Facebook page…I thought it was fitting to share in light of Mom’s words today.
“We add to our suffering when life changes and we still behave as if it hasn’t. Whether facing limitations of aging or shifts in relationship or the wilting of a dream, we are often given hints of the changes before they arrive. It’s how the angels of time try to care for us, drawing us to the new resources that wait out of view.” – Mark Nepo, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen
Carlene Welch is the General Manager at Home Instead Senior Care of Northwest Arkansas, and avid writer and poet, and my mom. She serves as a Stephen’s Minister at her church and is one of the wisest women I know. She writes custom poetry and prose for cards and gifts. For more information, contact us at firstname.lastname@example.org.