It starts simply.
Friendship, that is. I think folks try to make this complicated. It’s not.
It’s sometimes scary.
It’s sometimes intimidating.
It’s sometimes really uncomfortable.
But it’s not complicated.
Forming a connection is as easy as eating one grape. I get this analogy from my chiropractor who introduced me to this concept several years ago as a way to describe the sure-fire, change-your-life strategy to change your life…gradual, step-wise change.
Yep, I said GRADUAL….which most generally translates to “takes time.”
So it goes like this- add one grape to your daily diet today, each day thereafter add another grape. (The diet advice is free 🙂 )
Today eat your cheeseburger and fries, but eat a grape first. Tomorrow, eat two before your cheeseburger and fries; the next day three, and then four..until eventually you don’t have room or the desire to eat the greasy stuff anymore.
Developing connection, a crucial step in the process of building covenant relationship, is like eating one grape. Today a connection starts by a simple, “Me, too.” The hard part is speaking up- putting yourself out there and LITTLE BY LITTLE opening up to another human being. Start with the ‘small talk’ and work your way into deep conversations. It takes time to build deeply connected relationships, but they are so worth it.
“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What? You, too? I thought I was the only one.’ “
– C.S. Lewis