This guest post was written by a dear friend and ministry partner of mine, Brenda McClure. She’s agreed to come alongside me this year and regularly write guest posts for us! Isn’t that awesome? Did you know you could guest post, too? If you have an idea or would like to submit a post, send it to firstname.lastname@example.org. Here’s Brenda’s words on…well, words…Enjoy!
When I think of the commandments given in the New Testament, the first one seems pretty simple.
“And you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength. ” Mark 12:30 (NLT)
Simply put, love God in every way possible. The second one is easy to read:
“Love your neighbor as yourself.” Mark 12:31 (NLT)
No other commandment is greater than these. However, it isn’t as easy to put it into works. How do we love others as ourselves when often we don’t truly love ourselves? I realized that the answer to both, loving ourselves and loving others, go hand in hand.
My first thoughts went to how we speak to ourselves and to each other. Most of us would not speak to God in the same way we speak to ourselves and to each other. What do words of love look like? For me, they would always be authentic. That doesn’t mean that they don’t have tact, just that they are true. Proverbs 18:21a (NLT) says “The tongue can bring death or life.” I don’t like to be around people who always say “yes” but someone who can show me something without bringing death to my heart is someone I always value.
Words are so powerful. In Psalm 33:6 (NLT), the Lord merely spoke, and the heavens were created. With the power of words, God created us. With the power of words, we can lift a friend’s emotions or we can crush them. When we look in the proverbial mirror, we speak to ourselves. Do we lift ourselves up, or do we use the old tapes that run in our minds to identify our failures? As we change what we say about ourselves and to ourselves, we will also be able to change how we speak to others.
Lord, please help me to speak about myself the way YOU see me. Help my heart to soften to your words about me. Use me to speak to your children. Help me to speak to your loved ones in a way that reflects how YOU see them. Give me words to speak to my friends and strangers only in love. I ask this in Jesus’ name…
Brenda McClure is a massage therapist and owner of Couples Touch of Love, a ministry seeking to heal marriages through the teaching of biblical touch. Brenda has a heart for seeing relationships healed and brought back to the fullness that God designed them to be.